A Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

wolf in sheeps clothing

“It’s just that, in my past relationships, I’ve had some problems.”

*Steve had a bad habit of slagging off his daughter’s mother, *Dawn, as well as others from his previous relationships. It was never his fault when things went wrong. He wanted me to ‘join in’, but I refused, which led to numerous arguments. The way I saw it then and still see it now, their relationship has nothing to do with me. I wasn’t there when they were together, nor was I there for the duration or the end of it. It’s none of my business. My main concern was for the child who seemed to the centre of it all for monetary gain.

It was one thing bad mouthing his ex’s, but his daughter’s mother? That’s just disrespectful. But it got me thinking… if he could say those awful things he did about her, what was he capable of saying about me?

(*Not their real names)

12 thoughts on “A Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

  1. Exactly. Now you have the experience Persia to know there are many wolves out there still, but this time you will see through the sheep’s clothing.

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  2. There are many lessons we learn the hard way after experiencing something this traumatic. We learn that we can’t look for the good in everyone and not expect them to have any bad. We learn that appearances can be deceiving. We learn that trusting our gut instinct is not a bad thing, because sometimes even when our eyes are blinding to something, our heart just feels it and tries to remove the blinders.

    I think that the most important lessons we learn though are these: it doesn’t matter what others think or say about us as long as we love ourselves. We are stronger than we ever thought possible, because not only do we survive this devastation, we go on. We rise, we fight, even if we struggle, we live. We learn that silence is not a protection. We learn that we are not alone. And we learn that our lives, our hearts, souls, and minds, have value that some people neither can appreciate nor deserve.

    I am sorry that you, too, had to learn this lesson, but I am happy, joyous even, that out of the fire, I have found survivors like you.

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    • Amy, you are so right. I couldn’t have put it better myself. I was just thinking at the time “wow, imagine what he says about me”. Fast forward to now… I don’t give a damn! 😀

      Thank you for your kind words. As always, I appreciate them and you. xx

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  3. Well done you, Persia, for remaining the mature adult in all of this. Abusers do love to get their new partner to join in the misery-making – it speaks volumes about you that you refused (and probably suffered for it).

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    • Thank you. Oh, I did suffer for it! The verbal abuse was just as bad as being knocked about. I wouldn’t back down though. I’m so glad I didn’t get involved because I’d look like a first class idiot right now!

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