Blame Shifting


Under normal circumstances, I would not write a post about this, but after reading this article, I felt the need to.

I am absolutely sick to death of blame shifting. Whether it be a victim from a Domestic Abuse situation, wrongly being blamed; or from a parent blaming others for what I believe, a situation which clearly begins from home.

England/UK, has become a right mess because of the exaggerated use of all this PC bullshit, not to mention the Human Rights Act being taken out of context – namely, working in favour of criminals.

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Back to this article. It has annoyed me no end.

UK counter-terror officials criticised over Syria-bound missing schoolgirls

Why the hell are UK Counter-Terror Officials to be blamed? I’m sorry, but if the parents missed what their children were doing, why should the blame lie on the shoulders of someone else? How is this fair? Let’s put it like this; if they had been stopped at the airport, no doubt a lawyer would have turned it into something like this; “You only stopped her because she’s a Muslim”, or the Human Rights Act card would have been pulled. It is not unusual for fifteen year olds to travel by themselves. In fact, when I was flying to the US last year summer, there were two brothers sat next to me, with no parent to be seen. One was around twelve; the other around seven.

Someone would of had to have paid for their tickets, not to mention give them access to their passports. I know mine and my son‘s passports are in a ‘safe place’ – not that he’s old enough to grab his passport and leave home. And surely, there must have been some sort of suspicious behaviour from these three, which should have raised an eyebrow with their parents.

My point is, if the parents missed it, why the frigging hell should it be someone else’s duty to spot it? I mean one father even stated that his daughter had told him she was going to a wedding.

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I guess it’s not the greatest of comparisons, but it reminds me when I was with my (ex) husband *Steve who blamed me for everything he did wrong. Good grief, when are people going to accept responsibility for their own wrong doings? Is it a wonder why the world is in the state it is today?

Does this make me a racist? No, it does not. One of my best friends is Muslim. She has helped me to no end in my time of need. When she’s had her downs in life, I have been there for her. When I’ve had my downs in life, she has been there for me. In fact, she and her husband were the ones who put a free roof over my head and fed me when I was hungry, when I was left with nothing after leaving my son’s father, not to mention, she was the one driving me around to get my Green Card sorted out and then some. I feel I owe her a lot, but she believes our friendship is more than enough.

We have been friends for twenty years this year. I have never seen her behave in such a way like the Isis/IS. Nor have I ever heard her speak ill of my religion, just like I have not spoken ill of hers. I will never convert to hers; she will never convert to mine, not that we have tried to convince each other to do so. Yet we don’t see a problem. We see each other as equal. I, for the record, am a Christian ~ Church of England to be precise, so there is a bit of Catholicism too. Twenty years of friendship is a hell of a long time, so what is up with all this hate and war, in this day and age in the name of ‘religion’? It’s not religion. No, it’s to quench the thirst for blood and death from those who simply enjoy terrorising people.

The future of our children rely heavily on what they are taught at home first and foremost. If they are taught that to get out of a situation means to blame someone else, then indeed this is what they will conform to. Things will undoubtedly, get worse.

These girls must have been researching on how to join (or something along these lines), to be able to get ‘brainwashed’ into going to join the Isis/IS, who might I add, have no respect for anyone, not matter which religion you follow. I have watched videos of their executions (beheadings, burning, etc), and it really is not a pretty sight. It is nothing less than disturbing, that human beings can act in such a barbaric way. Sometimes, I am unable to sleep from how appalled I am by their vicious acts. But I will not turn a blind eye to it.

Perhaps, once again, not a very good comparison, but I could no longer turn a blind eye to the way humans (not all of course) treat animals. After the brutal and sadistic deaths of my kittens (see here and here) at the hands of my (ex) husband, I threw my hurt, sorrow and pain into becoming an Animal Advocate. I will have been an active Advocate for two years this July.

My point is, not for a minute, did I stop to think (for example) “Wow, Steve drowning my kitten Jacob really appeals to me, so let me join in”. If you join the Isis/IS, are willing travel there at the age of fifteen, and are ‘smart’ enough to convince your parents that you were attending a wedding, you know what you are doing. You know what you are getting into. Their behaviour is no secret; they and the media have made sure of that. Humanitarians and Aid Workers have gone to help those in peril. What has happened to many of them? Death by prolonged beheadings. By this, I mean their heads are not chopped off in one fell swoop (not that this would make it any better, however, would minimise the victims suffering), but they are literally sawn off from the front to back. This must feel like an eternity in hell for the victim. I cannot even imagine their pain.


A few days ago, I read how twenty-one Corpus Christians were executed by this group. The next picture had the following caption:


Horror: Blood is seen in the Mediterranean Sea. In the video the jihadis say they now plan to ‘conquer Rome.

Seriously, how can this appeal to any one?

I for one, at the age of fifteen, was worried about not getting bad grades in school, and trying to figure out which college I wanted to attend. And that’s exactly what these girls should have been doing, not leaving the safety of their home to join a group who hell bent on an horrific killing spree.

The UK Counter-Terror Officials have a lot on their plates already, without having to keep tabs on every soul who thinks the ‘hip’ thing to do these days is to join the Isis/IS. Remember,

You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

I know not what we are going to do to overcome this, but I know this; blame shifting is not the answer.

We need peace before mankind destroys itself.

Peace is the only way forward.

Rant over.

*Images from the web.

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18 thoughts on “Blame Shifting

  1. Well said, taking personal responsibility in this case for the parents of this kids to not be so vigilant about just a little thing like their, freaking kids are joining with a bunch of nuts of Muslim extremist. Saw an interview today with the sister of one of the girls, and the sister blaming ISIS(of course they are to blame to and should be not destroyed but we should have a slow and painful death, just torture them I don´t care). I can understand how distraught she must be, but common you people are the one who are there with your kids, my parents when growing up, where on top of me. There was no internet back then but still it´s no excuse.

    And the PC thing, I like that too. What´s up with this Obama summit, that to me being from Spain and living now here, I was looking at the news with my jaw open. It reminded me when I was back in the U.S in some seminar where people talked and talked but nothing was done, nothing meaningful that is. Take action for crying out loud. It really made me think, when our socialist president (not me saying they are socialist it is called The Socialist Party, which by the way Obama´s policies are very similar to the ones the Socialist party put in place her in Spain) went to the U.N and said “The world does not belong to anybody but the wind”, me, that was a laugh. Apeasement has been shown through history that it does not work. Appeasement lead to WWI (arguably) but certainly to WWII. And that thing of Mr.O that a lot of these people where going to join this nutcases because of lack of job opportunities made me cringe. How many poor people there are in the world that do not go and sever heads? Quite the whole majority. So no, and as a former soldier does piss me off and what is more it creates a lot of uncertainty when you top commander is having a battle of semantics about why not call them Muslim Extremist. That´s what they call themselve´s so that´s what they are. As the IRS, they where Irish terrorist and here in Spain we have the ETA and they are Spanish from the Vasc Country(which is a province of Spain) terrorist. And the top general a.k.a Obama has the U.S troops, running around with no clear strategy, first you put a name to your enemy and then you develop a strategy to kill it and degrade it as he says the most part. But in my opinion a war of attrition is what we have here, you can then do the other social and political things, but I doubt that people that are willing to die for an idea they have of that religion will ever be completely destroyed. I still remember the vice president saying “will chase them to the gates of hell” to which a Marine in irak said ” Chase them where? They don´t even let us get outside the wire”. Just a bunch of BS. And when the U.S is not strong and leading the world well that leaves the Europeans vulnerable(look at how good the peace talks went with Russia). Like it or not, the U.S is the superpower, once it retreats from that position there´s a big vaccum of power which is normally filled in by rouge States and in this case ISIS and Russia, and Iran. So I would say to Mr.O, to stop apologising for everything bad the U.S has done or it does, and start leading because the whole world is going to hell in basket. He needs to rally the people and lead, because his so called allies are quite suspicious at the very least that the great military might is actually going to do anything. And again like it or not, the U.S is crucial in leading from the front not from the back as the U.S president said( that I´m still scratching my head as to how in the world you lead from the back. If I had said that while in the army I´d get thrown out) but leading from the front, because if not as we can see things get worst and worst. That´s the burden the Americans have, to lead the world for stability. Maybe not always you guys do it perfectly, but certainly is much better than if you do not act.

    Wew…what a mouthful, got even rallied up myself with my own speech.


    • I am aware that parents are unable to keep an eye on their children 24/7, but blaming someone else is out of order, not to mention is really getting out of hand. At least the sister didn’t blame officials in the UK. But still, some of the blame does lie on the shoulders of their parents. Internet or not, you are absolutely right – there is no excuse.

      I didn’t watch the Obama summit. Did he really say that?! :/

      I for one, am fair from being well off. In fact, even last year, I had to ask for favours. A friend of mine had to pay for mine and my son’s flights back to the US, so I could sort out some important issues. She also gave me money to pay for part of my stay in the hotel we were in, as well as receiving some contributions from a few wonderful bloggers on here (WP). Not once have I thought “Hmm, I fancy a bit of blood on my hands today”. So yes, you are absolutely right about that. I also think education would help.

      Generally, people in ‘power’ have no clue as to what is really going on in the big wide world. They’re just lost in their own la-la land. I mean, Jihadis are said to be plotting to act as if they are seeking asylum in the UK; then take over from within. A serious wake up call is needed.

      I did briefly read about what happened with Russia. All I could do was shake my head…

      We need someone in ‘power’, who will no longer beat about the bush, and just deal with the situation with no fear. I know not how, but something needs to be done.

      Thank you for your comment. It really was a mouthful! 🙂

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    • I have to give you credit for someone who wouldn’t normally write about these matters you sure took some time out of your day to educate others. Kudos to you. It is horrible when people shift blame sometimes it seems as if people go out of there way to tear others down and try to hide behind words and say not me. What a world we live in.


      • Thank you. It took me all day yesterday to write it. I don’t like to push my views on others, but you know when you feel like you’re going to burst if you don’t say something? That was me. I agree with you. I see blame shifting almost on a daily basis – mainly by the media – and it really is not good how people jump on the band-wagon. I know not what fate lies ahead of the human race, but if we do not change, we are doomed… that’s of we aren’t already. A beautiful world destroyed by madness and greed. Sigh…


      • I agree although I wouldn’t say it is simply those in power. This beautiful world of ours is destroyed everyday by regular people as well. Some that aren’t even looking for power…..but just have their minds set to try and destroy the world or simply the people that live in it. But what are you going to do? Be mad at those who have sad lives? Just like you I think that we can only help to bring light to these issues and try to make the world a better place. : )


      • Sorry, but I did not mean it was just people in power destroying our world. What I said was, that they are not clear on what is really going on (or I guess they could be, but turn a blind eye to it). Believe me, I am fully aware of regular people’s actions/behaviours, who are set on destroying any and everything they touch, or that is in their way. And it truly is sad.
        I worry about my son’s future. Does he even have one with all of what is going on today?
        I do hope and pray, that these destructive people stop and think about what they are doing before it’s too late.
        Thank you very much for your input Tabitha. I have enjoyed conversing with you.


      • I just hate it when i see people do that. I was once, as well as the person who wrote the post, well one of my ex´s was one of those people that everything was other peoples fault. Something went bad at work, it was this guy´s fault or that other girls fault. At home the she didn´t find something, then it was my fault for moving her things around, and it got worst.
        So where does that lead people…really to no good places or a good life. If there is a pattern of constantly blaming others I feel sorry for that person. Look in the mirror and try to improve and do a little of soul searching, but humans are humans and people like that are in abundance. Just no my way.

        I myself experience the blame game, when I was down real down it was the fault of other always, the whole society was against me. Until I took a real close look at myself, it was painful but necessary, so until I didn´t look real good at myself and do some real painful soulsearching I didn´t come out of my bad luck. Once I faced myself, that was the hardest yet at the same time the only way for me to change my habits for healthier ones.

        Appreciate your comment.


      • I know like I recently cut off a lil thing with someone in my space he decided to stalk me and install spyware on my phone. I was told that I deserved it LOL people are crazy but what are you going to do?


      • With those nuts….run! Stay away from people like that as much as you can. Has served me quite good after a serious of bad judgements by me and being with that type of person. But you already know that.

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  2. I have to say, Persia, that I’d not thought it through this way, yes I do agree that we have to take responsibility for our actions. The blame lies with the parents for not taking any interest in what their children are doing. I know that the internet wasn’t around when my kids were young, my son has shown me that he wants to follow in dad’s guidance. I judge people on the way they behave, not their sex, skin tone, religion or anything else superficial. I’m just pleased that even with all the hatred in the world today the doctrine given me by my mum is going forward with my youngest who never met his grandmother. I’m always in favour of peace but there are times when we have to face evil and say enough!


    • Thanks for your comment. I just had to point out that this conduct is wrong; I take full responsibility for my son. When he gets older, he will have to share some of thay responsibility with me; then as an adult, take responsibility for himself.
      We do need peace, but I also agree, that at some point, we do/will have to say enough is enough.

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