The Real Reason You Break No Contact (It’s Not What You Think)

“Narcissists are masters at figuring out what our weaknesses, wounds, and fears are.” ~ Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed

Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed

The toughest, most lamentable ordeal in detaching from a toxic relationship with a Narcissist or other personality-disordered individual is implementing and maintaining No Contact (or Modified Contact in cases of shared custody).

The word on the street is that, on average, it takes leaving a toxic partner seven times before finally leaving for good.

I wonder where this number originated from.  From my experience and that of my readers, it often takes a much larger number of attempts before ultimately detaching and moving on.

Some people never truly leave and instead are placed into the “Friends with Benefits” category while their toxic Ex strings them along whilst living out his or her “real life” with someone else.

So why do we break No Contact?  Why do we monitor the Ex’s social media, looking for any shred of evidence that the person we thought existed might still be?  Why…

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