Once a Survivor Learns to Value Themselves

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14 thoughts on “Once a Survivor Learns to Value Themselves

  1. This is just beautiful. Just what I needed to hear. The abuse was going on for many years, one abuser after another. The whole time they are lying to you while they abuse you in secret. It’s like you can’t figure it out. You become confused, sick, run down, broke, always fighting and the narc says you’re the problem. Sometimes you get them out and they find a way to continue it through someone else nearby. And it just doesn’t end. And no ones going to admit to doing it so that’s when you have to get really smart. Unfair is the word. None of it needs to be. So I’m enjoying alone time and being real careful to learn the signs of toxic people before making new friendships/relationships.

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    • I am so sorry you have been in such a situation. It is an ongoing process which we need to just server ties with, as best as we can. If not, on e may never recover. I am thankful you got away from the situation, and are doing what I personally believe is best; some alone time. You are very wise to tread carefully, looking for signs. I wish you all the best along your Healing Journey. Love and hugs. xo

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  2. All to true, but what of those who, through various circumstances, have little self confidence, and no self interest, self esteem or self respect. They can still live life behind a screen, and they can be resigned to their position, and put up a good front, but life for them, if they have a life, can be, at best one long unending chore. How do I know, I’m one of them. Keep the good work going though, I’m sure many are helped by your thoughts, attitude, and words.

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    • Through circumstances, I had no confidence, self esteem not interest. It took a long time to get this far. It’s been years, yet I am still not quote there yet. But gradually, one starts to heal, so will start to see things differently. This is what I found with me. I am sure others will heal differently. I guess the key is not to rush it. It takes time.
      Thank you – I am trying to help others get through their bad experiences.

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  3. All to true, but what of those who variable factors have little confdence and/or no self respect, self intertest, or self interest? All to often they build a powerful barrier, and may appear to others to be happy at times, but what of the mess that lies behind such a screen. I should know, I’m one of them, despite now being a published author, but carry on posting. You are doing good work, and I’m sure others with a little more belief in the future, and in themselves, will be helped by your words.

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    • Your comment seems to echo that of another reader, so I shall say the same to you, if you don’t mind.
      “Through circumstances, I had no confidence, self esteem not interest. It took a long time to get this far. It’s been years, yet I am still not quite there yet. But gradually, one starts to heal, so will start to see things differently. This is what I found with me. I am sure others will heal differently. I guess the key is not to rush it. It takes time.
      Thank you – I am trying to help others get through their bad experiences”.

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