I had no idea he was talking behind my back, blaming me for our financial woes, nor did I know he was telling people that it was I who insisted on us getting married. Considering it was he who proposed to me, and he was the one who got the information about proxy marriages. I’d never heard of one before! And it’s certainly not something that we do in the UK.
Me, 03:01, 6 May 2013 – I don’t know what is wrong with him. If he had made this much effort with us, we would have been fine.
His Mother, 03:01, 6 May 2013 – yes you would. except for the lies and selfishness.
Me, 03:02, 6 May 2013 – So true. He lied about everything
Me, 03:02, 6 May 2013 – I wanted to leave him from last year and he wouldn’t let me
His Mother, 03:03, 6 May 2013 – including lying to me about you. grieve for the man you fell in love with so you can heal. don’t search for answers. that’s what I had to do.
Me, 03:04, 6 May 2013 – What did he say about me?
His Mother, 03:06, 6 May 2013 – he blamed the money problems on you, said you insisted on getting married, said you constantly put him down.
Me, 03:07, 6 May 2013 – Wow
His Mother, 03:07, 6 May 2013 – that was when he got out of the army and you were pregnant and he took off on you.
Me, 03:08, 6 May 2013 – I went to see him between Germany and the States 8 times and paid for it all to include flights, hotels and food.
Me, 03:09, 6 May 2013 – He racked up a nearly $3,000 debt on my credit card and left me to pay for it.
His Mother, 03:09, 6 May 2013 – when you told me he lied it was the final truth because everyone has been telling me that. that’s why I believe you.
Me, 03:11, 6 May 2013 – My divorce was finalised on April 1st 2011 and he insisted we get married straight away – against my better judgement, so it happened on April 29th 2011 by proxy.
Me, 03:11, 6 May 2013 – I ended up paying for it.
Me, 03:12, 6 May 2013 – I told him i didn’t want to get married ever again. He really is a liar.
His Mother, 03:12, 6 May 2013 – I always swore I would never marry again unless I knew the man’s family. I knew my husband’s family for almost 30 years before I met him.
Me, 03:14, 6 May 2013 – I will call you tomorrow or something so we can actually talk about the things he’s done to me and so I can set the picture straight. I now know why no one likes him. Very horrible person. Shame i had to move out there to find out. Hard to see when you live in different countries.
Me, 03:16, 6 May 2013 – Please do not tell him we are on talking terms or what we have discussed.
His Mother, 03:16, 6 May 2013 – if it’s any consolation, , I made the same mistake with an online relationship after his father and I separated. I will keep this secret as long as you want.
Where his mother states “…that was when he got put of the army and you were pregnant and he took off on you“, was when he left me stranded in West Virginia, heavily pregnant, in winter, with no money or food. I had literally no battery power left on my phone either. I had to sit outside in the cold, freezing to death, with no coat.
He eventually came back for me after three and a half hours.
Can’t say I’m surprised by his lies though. That’s all he ever does. Lie.